'So how's your little hippie shop going?': 50-year-old uncle calls out 25-year-old niece's small business, calls her 'disrespectful' when she claps back

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    AITA?: Clapped Back at My Uncle for Mocking My Startup

    I (25F) started an online marketplace about a year ago that only features sustainable, cruelty- free, and ethically sourced brands. It's something I care deeply about and have spent my early 20s on. I built it from the ground up to give people a way to shop responsibly and support small businesses that actually give a sh about people and the planet.
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    Last weekend, I was at a family dinner and my uncle (50M) who's always been a little snide about anything he sees as "woke," made a comment like, "So how's your little hippie shop going? Still saving the world one bamboo toothbrush at a time?"
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    Everyone laughed. I tried to brush it off, but he kept going. Something about how I'm "just selling overpriced junk to virtue- signalers" and how "normal people don't care about that stuff."
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    I kinda lost it and said, "At least I'm not helping exploit child laborers because I can't be bothered to shop responsibly." That shut him up fast, but now my family thinks I was being "disrespectful" and "too intense," especially since he's older than me and he's family. My mom told me I embarrassed him and made everyone uncomfortable.
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    But honestly?? I don't feel bad. I'm sick of people acting like trying to do the right thing is some kind of joke.
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    Commenters celebrated her defense of herself.

    ScarletNotThatOne 10h ago • NTA. You didn't pick the fight. You just responded. If he wants to put you down for your values, well, you're gonna answer. Good for you.
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    Garisdacar • 10h ago NTA, he started the disrespect
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    Denuse99.9h ago NTA. Respect goes both ways. What he was saying was not disrespectful. Ask your mom if it was her he was talking like that, would she just sit there and take it? And if she is your mom why is she not standing up for her child?
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    SeekersChoice 10h ago Nta - and my family I have some family members that are similar. And people kept telling me that I needed to turn the other cheek. Or they would tell me that's just the way they are. And for years I listened but one day they pushed me an inch too far and I said that.
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    Turning the other cheek only means you get slapped twice. And I've taught my family now that that's just the way I am. If they push me I will push back harder (verbally not physically). If they start a fight I will finish it. And on top of that I will record it and I am not afraid to use that recording to help show everybody else what's going on.
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    Never start a fight but always finish it. Or else we're going to be rolling over for them until we're 60. Be polite, be calm, but don't be afraid to call them out. Stay in calm and politely sitting facts is one of the most infuriating things that you can do to most of these people.
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    Beneficial-Math-23... • 9h ago NTA, OP! I'm in my 60s, and I've been a progressive all my adult life. I've been hearing from like your uncle for decades. What has worked for me has varied over the years, but basically, a combination of readily available facts mixed with a solid dose of Irish Catholic guilt tripping usually shuts them up.
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    Soybean Arson • 9h ago It's always funny to me when someone is disrespectful to another person, but if that person responds in kind all of the sudden they get called out for being disrespectful. Respect and politeness are mutual. It also bugs me when
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    people pull out the "they are older, they don't know any better" as if they are a child to be excused. Mfer you been around longer so more than anyone YOU should know better. Otherwise we need to start sending people back to kindergarten once they hit 50 if they are gonna use this excuse. NTA
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    waste-of- 5h ago that happened Also, how what you said would shut him up anyway? The absolutely vast majority of people don't care, especially since it's not like your uncle is directly kidnapping children and make them work in his own factory
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    Deidei27rock • 9h ago . You disrespected him? How about the other way around?
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    tooreal4u_5101 • 9h ago NTA. So your family thinks he has the right to make you feel uncomfortable, but you can't return the favor? Yeah, cut them off if they persist with that stupid mindset.
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    RadiantActuary7367 · 9h ago You are tying to show how virtuous you are by running some boutique store that people can use to feel that their one-off, online purchases of internet junk are "making a difference".
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    Your uncle decided to shame you about it in front of the family. And then he did it twice. You responded with more moral posturing. ESH... unless this is fake, in which case, YTA
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    fishling 9h ago NTA, don't dish it out if you can't take it back. Sounds like you took the first hit silently but he kept on going. FAFO.
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    Pumpkin SpiceMayh... 8h ago NTA Sounds like your uncle is too insecure to handle being around anyone with actual gumption and values.
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    ZookeepergameOk1... 9h ago NTA. Your family can comfort him. Moving forward though, he will be keeping his opinions to himself.

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